I had such a great time on The Today Show - it was wonderful to tell my son Mercer's story and inspire others to make the small changes that make a big difference. In case you missed it: WATCH MY TODAY SHOW APPEARANCE HERE.
The experience reminded me of how life is more than just career. It's why I make sure in my coaching practice to cover a full spectrum of eight elements when I help clients define their ideals. Making a great living doesn't just cover the skills you have or the experiences on your resume, it's about the lifestyle you need to be happy and healthy. It's about making the contribution that only your unique set of interests, talents and values can provide to the world.
It is because I managed my career to fit my life that I was able to be there for Mercer when he really needed me. You too can have a career that enables the lifestyle you want. You don't need to be rich to do what you want to do. You just have to start now by making conscious choices to do what you know is right for you, even when others don't understand. It might be hard or scary to follow your heart but its the difference between those who do what they really want in this world and those who wish they had.
I learned this important lesson when I interviewed Deepak Chopra. A conscious, albeit unpopular choice made him the successful and influential author and speaker he is today. Listen to my podcast with more of Deepak's story & why you don't need to win the lottery to do what you want.
Now that I have Mercer, I see everyday how there's more to life than work. Many of you may not know that I enjoy singing and even performed in my own Off-Broadyway cabaret show called "Follow Your Dreams." Recently, I got back on stage and gave a performance in the Florida Keys. It took courage but after the first few notes, I rememebered how much more the fun outweighed the fear.
Don't worry I'll still be giving career advice. In fact, my how to interview video is my top rated video on my YouTube channel with over two million hits. My singing video has just a few less. :) I just wanted to remind you that making a great and sustainable living is more about getting paid to be you than it is about selling your soul for a paycheck.
"You have to leave the city of your comfort and go into the wilderness of your intution. What you'll discover will be wonderful. What you'll discover is yourself." --Alan Alda
Change is not something most people deal with well. It can however, be a great teacher inspiring you to grow in positive ways. Catch me on The Today Show this Friday (3/15/13) at 10a ET sharing my personal story of dealing with big change, in this case the 3 month premature birth of my son Mercer while on vacation.
Often we think we the best way to cope with massive change is to go BIG in our adjustments. Not true. As I found out and as evidenced by a new book, Tweak It by work-life fit expert Cali Yost, small tweaks are the secret to dealing with big change.
My husband Craig and I were shocked by the early birth of our son. We were completely unprepared for his arrival at the 28th week of my otherwise very smooth and healthy pregnancy. We were on vacation, in a city we didn't know. It was a lot to take in. Luckily we had the support of family, friends and experts like Cali Yost (in photo at left). Cali had been a frequent guest on my radio show and over the years became my go-to person for dealing with work-life issues. After my family, Cali was the first person I called to deal with this situation in a healthy and productive way. (Read Cali's advice in my post "When Life Throws You a Curve Ball").
Inspired by that conversation and by the sage insights of my StayAdventurous.com founder husband Craig, we realized we had to get used to a new normal and then tweak back to the life we knew. Here are the tweaks we made:
Career tweaks - We both chose to go back to work part-time but do it remotely. I went back to hosting my SiriusXM radio show two weeks after Mercer was born and while this surprised some, it was the right move for me. Planning, preparing and delivering my show took 4-5 hours per week but that time was a welcome respite from the challenges of being the parent of a micro-preemie.
Wellness tweaks - We stayed in a hotel next to the hospital for the 61 days our son was in the NICU. Though we could have saved some money and gone with a standard room, we upgraded to an efficiency with a kitchen. It was important to us that we eat healthy during this time to have the strength and emotional wellbeing to be there for our son every step of the way.
Peace of mind tweaks - Having purchased a small angel figurine a few months earlier, I could think of nothing better to put in Mercer's incubator. It was my way of watching over him when I couldn't be there in person. Though the hospital staff were wonderful, having that little angel there withMercer at all times, helped me focus on love and the possibility of miracles. Thankfully that is what we got. As I write this, Mercer is a happy, healthy 2 year old! We celebrated his birthday at Disney coincidentally on the very same day I received the call that the Today Show wanted to fly me to NYC to tell his story. (Listen to my latest podcast for more on Career Coincidences).
Now I not only believe in miracles, I get to see one everyday in Mercer. My hope is that this Friday's Today Show segment inspires people who themselves are going through big changes to make the small but essential tweaks that will not only help them survive but thrive too. Tune in Friday (3/15/13) at 10am ET to NBC's Today Show with Kathie Lee, Hoda, Cali and me!
While we try to teach our children all about life, Our children teach us what life is all about. ~Angela Schwindt
But before I do that, I want to thank all of you who took the time to share your career needs and goals with me. I was deeply touched by your personal stories and by your optimism to know that a better career and life are waiting for you. Because of that, I decided to not only give away a full Soul Search, Research and Job Search coaching package but also give away three additional coaching sessions as consolation prizes. My congratulations to the winners!
Winner of 9 sessions of one-on-one coaching on Soul Search, Research and Job Search: Mark from Texas! Mark wants to clarify what he'd love to do, find a new job, make a decision about options he's considering and explore options that relate to his particular interest(s)/talent(s. I'm exicted to help Mark achieve his goal of being happy with his work!
Consolation winners of one hour of one-on-one coaching: Megan who wants a steady yet creative career, Laura who wants to make a difference in the world while having time to raise her children and Christa who wants to make sure she's on track doing work she loves not just what she's good at.
What I respect as far as in myself and in other is the spirit of just doing it. For better or worse, it may work and it may not, but I'm going to go for it. Ultimately I probably prefer to be respected for that than...either winning or losing. -Hugh Jackman
Okay so it doesn't have all bells and whistles of my SiriusXM show but it doesn't come with a subscription fee either. I have heard from so many of you via my Facebook radio page that you appreciate the positive encouragement I deliver on air. Well here it is in purest and simplest form!
It's my way of testing out new ways of sharing a positive empowering perspective when it comes to you following your dreams. I also want to keep you up-to-date on how you can get help with your career. Here are some important highlights this month:
Get a Career Makeover with my Follow Your Dreams Giveaway (must enter by 1/31/13):
Get the Work/Life Fit you crave with a free, interactive webinar I'm hosting Tues Jan 8th 12pET:
To celebrate the launch of her new book, Tweak It – I will be interviewing Work Life Expert Cali Yost Tuesday Jan 8th at 12p ET. Get a full hour of Q&A with the author along with prizes and giveaways of the new book. You can even submit your own work life dilemmas and get your questions answered directly by Cali. Check out WorkLifeFit.com for details and to learn about the book.
When you follow your dreams it's of service to the world. Why? Because happiness and optimism are contagious. Hang out with an inspired person & you'll be inspired too! It's an upward spiral.
Comment on my blog right now with your dreams for 2013. Let's start creating our own upward spiral of positive reinforcement. And tell me what you think of this new format. Is it something you feel I should continue?
I hope to be on Martha Radio and on SiriusXM in 2013. Just in case my show doesn’t continue there, however, you can always find me here at MaggieMistal.com. I want to take the opportunity now at holiday time to say thank you to those who've been tuning in, sharing their comments about the show via email and on Facebook:
Susan said: "Your show really opened my eyes to the fact that I get to create my own path. I don't have to be a part of a reality that was created by my family, teachers, or expectations from another time. I often hear the tagline for Martha Stewart Radio, "Learn something new every day." And every show you taught me something valuable...I'm so glad that you've been in my orbit every Friday afternoon for all these years!!"
To say thank you, I'm offering an unprecedented Follow Your Dreams giveaway. For all who enter starting today through 1/31/13, I will be choosing at random one lucky winner to receive a full 9-session Soul Search, Research and Job Search coaching program (a $5000 value).
How To Enter the Follow Your Dreams Giveaway:
Go to MaggieMistal.com, sign up for my newsletter (see bottom left of homepage) and then use the Contact button to share why you’d love some help with your career.
I’ll randomly choose one winner from all the entries.
You have until Jan 31, 2013 to sign up for my newsletter and contact me with your career needs and goals.
I’ll let the lucky winner know via email on Monday Feb 4th, 2013.
All are eligible to enter including people who don't subscribe to SiriusXM.
Even if you don’t want to participate in the giveaway, you can still sign up for my newsletter & get on my mailing list. This way we can stay connected and I can share with you my latest tips on how to Soul Search, Research, Job Search and keep the right mindset, while also highlighting trends in the marketplace, and career success stories. I’ll be sharing some new audio tips in 2013 too!
Happy New Year! Here's to you being inspired to not settle and instead, create your dream career in 2013.
Always follow your dreams,
"The foolish man [or woman] seeks happiness in the distance, the wise grows it under his [or her] feet." - James Openheim.
The holidays are here and before you know it, we'll be ringing in a new year. Make 2013 the time that you move forward and complete the goals and dreams you've set for yourself by joining my monthly mastermind group.
One hour, once a month - that's it! But it's so powerful! My mastermind calls are focused on supporting you in staying in the right mindset to make the most of the time you have and keep you focused on actions that will provide you with the most career happiness and success.
Mastermind Group details...
--Calls will be from 11am-12pm ET one Saturday per month for six months. Dates are: 12/15, 1/12, 2/9, 3/9, 4/20, 5/18. If you have a scheduling conflict, no worries as each call will be recorded so you can listen in whenever is convenient for you.
--Each call will consist of not only an inspiring topic but also a feedback forum where people can take center stage to get the group's collective brain trust to focus on his/her goal or challenge.
A fabulous support group for staying on track and reaching your goals!
Recent participants said they, "Loved the format!" and that they would really "miss this monthly touchstone." Space is filling up so don't wait.
Email me at Maggie@MaggieMistal.com to sign up or learn more. One hour per month could translate into 40 hrs+ a week where you are loving your career!
Happy Holidays and here's to always following your dreams,
If money were no object, most people would be in different careers. At least that has been my experience coaching clients one-on-one and taking listener calls on my SiriusXM show. Ironically, following the money doesn't offer the comfort people seek. Can they pay you enough to do a job you don't like?
Good thing there is an alternative. You really can make a great living without selling your soul. In fact, you will find a more sustainable income when you listen to yourself and follow-through on the thoughts and ideas that come to you. Look at Facebook, Google, Apple - all of these companies started with an idea, a thought, a vision. The founders of these companies took these ideas seriously - they valued their genius and used that as the cornerstone for making a great living.
I read the back stories on successful people all the time - very few if any succeeded because they were trying to get rich quick. Instead, they had a mission, a purpose to their work - they were trying to make life better for others and money (lots of it!) was the natural offshoot to products or services that did just that. If you don't believe me, read Patricia Aburdene's new book Conscious Money. Patricia is a best known for spotting mega trends. Her first best-seller Megatrends 2000 sold over 14 million copies worldwide. Since then Patricia has noticed a new trend: Conscious Capitalism. It's an approach that continues to grow even during the recent Great Recession. Companies that have a higher purpose beyond profit, who treat their employees, customers, the environment, etc. well are outperforming companies focused on only profit alone. It's a revolution I for one am excited about!
To make it in this new age, Patricia points out the Creativity is our most valueable skill. Innovating new ways to doing things is something everyone now has the power to do, not just experts or a certain powerful few at the tops of companies or governements. CEO's are recognizing this too and 1500 of them cited creativity as their most sought after talent in employees in a landmark IBM study. So what does this mean to you? It's time you start cultivating your ow creative R&D as Patricia calls it.
Make space/time in your life for just being, not doing. Filling your schedule up with to do's is distracting. Allow for quiet time during your work day. Patricia recommends starting a mindfulness practice like meditation or yoga.
Notice where you get your most creative thoughts. For some it's the shower, for others, it's a long run.
Harvest the ideas you get from this practice. Keep a notebook or smart phone handy. Inspiration can come in a brainstorm and you'll want to be ready to capture it.
I have never felt more strongly that we all have the answers we need inside of us. It's the basis of my Soul Search work. Put yourself in the driver's seat of your career. Follow the inspiration that comes to you and you'll soon see that your own creativity is the best and most sustainable source of income you could imagine.
Where are you settling for good? Might there be a way to combine your passions or add in new talents to your existing job or business so you can have a unique and highly successful niche? Might it be time for you to reinvent into a brand new field, one that you’ve been dreaming of?
The time is now! You can have a great career, you just have to Soul Search, Research and Job Search to know what that looks like and go in with the right mindset –one of abundance and possibility. Not scarcity and lack.
Here are some resources to help you go from Good to GREAT:
Atlanta Falcon Tim Green didn't just stop with an NFL career, he's since become a New York Times Best-Selling author. Hear his career change story live on my radio show today (9/28). You can tune in at 5p ET/2p PT using this free trial of SiriusXM.
Joe (a plumber) and AnnMarie (a secretary) turned their layoffs into an opportunity to pursue a career dream - their own food truck. Now the owners of La Bella Torte, Joe and AnnMarie share how they did it. Also on my SiriusXM radio show today!
My FaceBook fan page has the Soul Search questions that I use with my coaching clients. Check them out you too can get answers to define your GREAT career.
Jim Collins, legendary author of Good To Great, said it best: “Those who strive to turn good into great find the process no more painful or exhausting than those who settle for just letting things wallow along in mind-numbing mediocrity. Yes, turning good into great takes energy, but the building of momentum adds more energy than it takes out.” Get more inspiring good to great quotes and move forward with your ideal career.
You can meet some of the best people through work. Recently, I reconnected with a wonderful Canadian couple on their family trip to NYC. My husband and the other gentleman had worked together years ago during our Arthur Andersen days. Great people – very smart, fun, and loving with two beautiful children who just loved Mercer.
Of course, the conversation led to career (with and without some prompting from me). Here's what I found interesting…
Our friend had shaved his head as part of his three-week vacation. Talk about letting your hair down. His workplace up north was too conservative and such self-expression wouldn't fly. So for three weeks he got to look the way he wanted and was ecstatic about it.
Our friend's wife felt great about the steady nature of her job but not the content. With a sigh at one point, she said she wished her husband would get promoted so she could quit her job.
Are these feelings you share? Do you feel you can’t be yourself at work? Would you rather not work at all?
I can't help but take to heart these insights. Yes, they were shared quickly and in passing (not sure my friends would even remember saying them as part of the long and very fun conversation.) But to me these are critical clues that something is amiss and further exploration (dare I say it, Soul Search) is warranted.
Coincidentally, I was contacted by a talented writer from Forbes.com to weigh in on an article about what to do when you hate your job. If you know me, I believe there are no coincidences and everything happens for a valid reason. It was an honor to be quoted and the article is full of great advice. However, my point about Soul Search wasn't included so I want to share it here.
Why people remain in jobs in which they’re unhappy:
From my experience working with thousands via my coaching practice and SIRIUSXM show, people often stay in jobs they don't like because they don't realize what else they CAN do. They haven't taken the time to identify what makes them happy or where their talents lie. They haven't clarified their values and thought about how they'd like to use their abilities to make a difference and align their work with their purpose. Too often people assume work is supposed to be a chore so they don't even look for anything other than that when embarking on a job search.
If you hate your job, what you can do about it:
The number one thing you can do is Soul Search BEFORE you Job Search. Look back on your life and career to those projects that you did enjoy. Delve into each situation and get to the important details such as the role you played, the skills you used, the outcome you produced and anything else about it that made it fun/engaging for you. You can also ask others about your best skills, abilities and talents. This is a great way to stop taking your strengths for granted and to articulate what it is you do for others that is so special.
I have found that when looked at from this perspective people come up with more exciting, more rewarding and more fulfilling career possibilities than when they just scour the job boards and shoehorn themselves into what's out there.
I find people desiring a career change also don't have the proper mindset. It is easy to look at what is wrong, what you disdain, and what doesn't work, but it is more beneficial to look at what is working and to be appreciative of the aspects of the job that can enable your next career move.
I've learned that offering unsolicited advice doesn't work out for the best, eh? So I didn't share these insights with my friends. But if you or someone you know feels they are wasting time in the wrong job, feel free to pass this along or better yet, tell them to call in for advice on my weekly SIRIUSXM radio show. Living fully while on vacation is a good start, living fully everyday is what you were meant for!
Call in! The dial in # is the same: 866-675-6675 but the advice will be fresh, to the point and exactly what you need to move forward. Remember to tell your friends and family that they can call in too. All you need is the phone # and you can get free, quality advice from your career coach every Friday at 5p ET!
Tune in for more inspiring guests - whether it's a day in the life interview of a celebrity or interesting careerist or a been there done that career change success story or how to be your own boss from a successful entrepreneur, you'll hear expert, practical advice you can use now to make a great living.
I look forward to hearing from you this Friday and am making more time for callers given it's been six months so you probably have a lot of pent up questions!